working great now thanks
with local i have both rgh connected to router like this
xbox 1 192.168.0.9 port 3071/3072 fwd for this ip under router settings
xbox 2 192.168.0.6 port 3081/3082 fwd for this ip under router settings
both pass and work fine online but local i cant see the host am i doing somthing wrong?
i think i got them to connect once when both the local consoles connected to a non local host